How to Get Your Girlfriend Back From Another Man

It's every guy's worst nightmare: your exgirlfriend starts dating another guy before you have a chance to fix your break up. If you still love your ex and want to fix your relationship, getting past this hurdle is a big step on the path to reconciliation.

Exgirlfriend Already Dating
If she already has a new boyfriend
can you still get her back?

So what exactly can you do to get your girlfriend back if she's with someone else? Can you stop her from dating this new guy altogether, and are there things you can do to change her mind?

Below you'll find a list of important moves and mindsets you'll need if you're going to walk the path to getting back together with your ex. Although she may be dating another guy, you should never give up hope.

You can always rekindle what you had, as long as you can find that original spark between you.

This will take patience, and it'll take some time too. This is where most guys go wrong in their approach. But if you're willing to step carefully - and not make any of the bigger mistakes guys often make while trying to win back the love of an ex - you can definitely make it work

The key when your ex has a new boyfriend is time, patience, and the ability to keep level-headed during a very jealous and uncomfortable situation.

Accept The Fact That She's Dating

Denial will always hold back anyone on the quest to get back an ex. You need to fully understand that the moment your ex-girlfriend begins dating someone else, the relationship between the two of you is completely over. Don't gloss over it - say it out loud and accept it as true. The sooner you can do this, the quicker you can clear your head and concentrate on how to get her back and build a new relationship with her.

Don't Resist Her Rebound Relationship

One of the first things that will happen after your ex gets a new boyfriend is she'll be looking to see your reaction. If you've been trying to get back together with her, she already knows you still love her. Therefore she'll expect you to call, email, or even physically stop by and acknowledge that she's dating again. She'll also be waiting for you to talk her out of seeing her new love interest, which is why this is the absolute LAST thing you should do. Avoiding all ex-girlfriend contact is your best move here; you're not exactly hiding from her, but you want to drop out of sight for a while. Not seeing you will make her wonder where you went, putting you back in her head. This is good. Continued absence from her life is even better, because eventually your ex will start to miss you on some levels.

Say Nothing But Good Things

When you do finally reconnect with your ex (or one of her friends), you'll be informed that your exgirlfriend is dating again. Once you get this news, you need to be as supportive as can (without going overboard). Saying anything bad about her new boyfriend will send your ex running for the hills: she'll want to protect her new romance and she'll chalk you up as jealous and desperate. Instead, let her know you're happy for her and wish her well. Don't just do it, mean it. This will put your ex in the position of being pleasantly surprised, while at the same time being a little bit hurt that you're not trying to fight for her. She'll begin wondering if and why you don't care anymore, and it'll put a dent in her ego too. This is all good - you want to get your ex's imagination flowing because she won't have any idea of what you're up to. Even though she broke it off, your ex still wants you to want her.

Gain Trust and Communication With Your Ex

Once you've accepted her new relationship, your exgirlfriend will feel comfortable around you again. Comfort is one of the biggest parts of winning your girlfriend back from another guy. Reconnecting with your ex should be simple and easy, whether you initiate contact or, even better, your ex calls you up. Keep conversation casual, and steer clear of two subjects: your break up and her boyfriend. Only once she mentions him can you talk about him, and even if she begins complaining you can't say a single bad thing. As tough as it might be to see your ex with another guy, man up and remind yourself that it's only temporary. You're working toward getting your girlfriend back, and reconnecting with your ex is a big part of that mission.

Keep The Lines of Communication Open

If you can make your ex comfortable in talking to you again, she's going to begin using you as a sounding board for all her bigger decisions. She knows you well, and now she trusts you. Over time she'll talk about her boyfriend and what kind of issues she might have with him. Let her talk, and absorb what she says. You're gaining valuable information you might be able to use later on, when you're trying to get back together again. Be there for your ex whenever she wants to talk, but don't press her... and definitely don't initiate much contact at all. Let her do that.

Establish a Life of Your Own

There are few things more attractive to a girl than having a life all your own. As you're out with friends having a great time, your ex will begin to get jealous of your freedom. Believe it or not, she'll feel trapped in her new relationship while you're out enjoying yourself and doing anything you want. She'll also be nervous of you hooking up with other girls, despite the fact she has no basis to be. You exgirlfriend might say she wants to see you find someone new, she'll tell you she wants to see you happy... but in reality she wants you to still need her, and hang around waiting for her. It's selfish, but it's the way of human nature. We all want things we can't have, especially when we already have something else.

These are just the first few steps you should take toward getting your girlfriend back when she's already dating. To see what to do next, check out Ex Girlfriend is Dating Someone Else.



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Same Deal    said on 09-21-2011

My gf is in the same boat as Dave: she's got this new guy she's dating but still sends me text-messages every week. He made her unfriend me on Facebook, but she says she still wants to remain friends even though he doesn't know about it.

Do you think I have a chance with her? We dated for 2 and 1/2 years up until this summer.

David M.    said on 09-13-2011

What if your ex still wants to keep in touch with you while she has a new boyfriend? Should you keep talking to her? Sometimes I think she wants to get back together, but then she goes through phases where she won't call or take calls. Then she fights with him and calls me again. I don't know what to do.

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